Posted in Anticipation, Inspiration, Leadership, Motivation

Any Value in Planning 2016 NOW?

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‘Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.’ Winston Churchill.

If  you know me well enough, you will know that in my personal life, I live in the moment, except when life seriously demands otherwise.   It works most of the time for me and I believe that it is because of a deeper and stronger alignment which I have with the universe. The universe, in some magical way, knows what I need, even before it comes out of my mouth.

However, while I love being spontaneous, I do wonder how much more successful and purpose driven I could be, if only I invested some more time in planning NOW. While there is much fun and high adrenaline in living in the NOW and being spontaneous,  it can also be  a stressful experience for others who want to support me and spend time with me.  When others don’t know what to expect, it leaves them feeling frustrated and not included. This is not my intention but I know that this is what happens.

Last year, when my partner invited me to plan our calendar of activities for the year, I felt that my body moved immediately into resistance mood.  I hate thinking so much in advance… a whole year! Thankfully he does not give up on me that easily!  This year he extended the planning invitation again and I was much more willing to go through the process.

It took us only 30 minutes to plan our major events and activities for 2016. Each planned activity is an intention which we put out in the universe. The manifestation of all of our dreams begins with a seed of intention and imagination. Now, I feel excited about the future because roles and responsibilities are divided; there are clearer lines for accountability and we will be able to measure our success. Our plan also leaves lots of space for being spontaneous!

For the first time in a decade, I even know exactly when I will be taking my holidays!  That is amazing!

Try this for yourself.  Write out all the months of the year on a piece of paper.  Ask yourself:

  1.  What would I like to achieve this year?

  2. When would I like to achieve it?

  3. Who do I need to help me?

  4. What will it feel like when I have achieved it?

Live your future Now by planning NOW… it may just save you time and energy!  In addition, it may create such a powerful intention that your soul will be singing all the way with you!

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Love,

Magdalene

 

 

Posted in Family, Love

Kindness and compassion makes life better and easier… always!

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I was touched today to see two young men host a birthday dinner party for their moms.  The two young men were my son Jelan and his friend Zac.  Zac and his family are also our next door neighbours.  Zac’s mom and I celebrate our birthdays a day apart and Jelan and Zac celebrate their birthdays one day apart too!  Strange coincidence!

We have watched the boys grow up over the years and it is quite remarkable to see them take on more and more responsibility for their lives but more importantly to practice kindness and compassion towards others.  The effort and love which the two of them put into creating this little dinner party for the two families touched my heart.  They planned the menu, took the afternoon off and created a joyful space for the celebration. Neither one of them cook much at home – so I was very impressed with the culinary skills and the great  BBQ.

 

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As a parent, I have held my breath many times as I raise my kids for all kinds of reasons. I have lived with the fear that they would take the wrong path; I have had doubts about my parenting skills; I have spent sleepless nights wondering if they would get home on a particular night and I have prayed millions of times for God to guide them and protect them wherever they are.  Parenting, as most of us who are parents know, does not come with a manual for our unique children.  We apply some best practices and common knowledge but the soul is each child is so uniquely different that we must also allow them the freedom to explore and have the confidence that they will turn out to be fine individuals.

I have repeatedly asked myself the question, “What evidence would I need to have, to know that my children would be fine in the world and be good, contributing citizens?” My answers have been to complete their education, have a good job, be financially responsible, have their own families, own their own home and to have great relationships with others.

Lately, I have added a few more items to the list.  I want them to be able to live harmoniously  with other people and to have compassion and kindness in their hearts towards ALL people, not simply those whom they know or are privileged to spend time with them on a regular basis. As easy as this sounds, it is not always easy to practice kindness and compassion because we have grown to be quite a cautious society with judgements about others which can cause us to be indifferent, unkind or sometimes even hostile.

After watching them in action today, it is my hope that they will continue to remain grounded in humility and find small and big ways to add beauty to the planet through the consciousness of kindness and compassion.

Love,

Magdalene

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How To Destroy Opportunities That Can Give Us A Career Break, A Better Relationship….

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It is easy to destroy opportunities that could give us a great career break, a promotion or a better chance at having a great relationship with a co-worker, friend, neighbour, child or partner. Even though much of world has gone digital, the human connection is still at the heart beat of making or breaking us. I take a deep interest in observing human interaction around me and very often I see situations that I think could have been dealt with differently, if only we are a bit more aware. Sometimes we think that how we behave at home is different from work but I think it is hard to separate the core of who we are. A happy person will carry that feeling of happiness everywhere they are. An angry person will carry the energy of anger whereever they are, even if they are dressed in the best garments.

From a soul perspective, I know that our souls are longing for expansion, advancement and to be filled with light. It longs to feel good about what we do on a day to day basis.

This list is not inexhaustible but here are a few things that can make or break the deal:

a) Not paying attention to who has influence and power to make or break you.

A few years ago, in the middle of a work crisis, a wise older woman wrapped her arms around me and said, “Magdalene, pay attention to every single person in the company. Acknowledge the smallest worker, for he or she has influence which is bigger than you may realize”. How true that was! Shortly afterwards, the person who opened the door to a specific opportunity for me was the cleaner who got to know more about me and was connected to the head of another organization who was looking for a person with my skill set. I was very surprised at the turn of events in this specific case. Sometimes we think that only our boss has the power to promote us – WRONG! Think of all the people who can talk to your boss or partner or child about you! I have seen cases where so much negative information was fed to the decision maker that it ruined any possibility of promotion for the worker, even when he had all the skills and could do the job. I have also seen people get promoted simply because others spoke about them in such a positive way. The more people who you have good relationships with – the better!

b) Lack of self-awareness:

Sometimes we have no idea of how our actions, body language, words and general energy comes across. I once interviewed a woman who looked so tired that even though she had an impressive resume and I believed that she could do the job, her low energy level simply drained me. Another time, someone else was so bubbly and excited that she too drained me because it was hard to keep up with her extremely high energy. I was once interviewed and did not get the job because I came across as being too confident! Since then I have learnt how to be a bit more humble and to also match my environment so that I fit in and not to stand out in the “wrong” way. Now, from a cross cultural perspective, this is very sentitive as behaviours from one country may be completely misunderstood by another country. It is important to educate yourself about other cultures, ask lots of questions if you are not sure of how you come across and be observant about how business is conducted around you.

c) Insecurities:

People who are insecure in themselves feel that others are constantly against them or attacking them. This results in a constant inner battle which makes them guard against others to the destruction of establishing productive and positive relationships. If you are constantly complaining about everyone or feeling attacked by others, it is likely that you need to do something different to change that around. Exhibiting “smart-ass” behaviours, making rude remarks or making statements that put another person down sets a RED alarm, makes others feel inadequate and immediately begins an upspoken “battle”. I recently watched one person rolled her eyes and exchanged a dirty look with someone else, while their colleague was speaking and even though it was not targeted at me, I immediately developed a dislike for the person’s behaviour. I could not help but wonder if I worked with these people, whether I would be treated in a similar way.

d) Lack of gratitude for the simplest to the grandest things:

By nature, human being like to be appreciated and the more we can say “thank you” to others, the more we attract positive energy our way. By simply not acknowledging the good in others, we diminish the light around our own soul. Find ways to show your gratitude to others. Send a card, call to express your sentiment, send an e-mail, treat a person to lunch or coffee, buy a small gift… I try to express gratitude to at least one person each day and it always creates an uplifting energy!

Imagine if each one of us took individual responsibility to touch everything we do with gratitude, generosity, good intentions, love and sincerity. The best part of it all, is that the moment we become aware of the behaviours that can cause destruction in our lives, we have the power to change it around. Our soul loves nothing more but to expand and grow in a positive light.

TuneIn to what is causing destruction in your life and StepUp to make the change required to attract amazing opportunities.

Love,
Magdalene