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Let Nothing Disturb You – Prayer of St.Theresa of Avila

St. Theresa of Avila

Over the last few days, I have been busy decluttering my space both at the office and at home.  It brings fresh energy, makes you feel better about your work and sets a tone of preparation for exciting things to come.

I found old photographs, cards, poems, gifts and souvenirs from friends…I even found a notebook with phone numbers of friends whom I have not been in touch with for a long time! I redecorated a bulletin board in my office and stuck some thank you cards and photos of my colleagues at work, my loved ones and even colleagues who have moved to other countries or other jobs.  However, in all of this cleaning, I also came across these words from St. Theresa of Avila, which I wrote several years ago.  It is a timeless, priceless and holds true today.

Let go of your worries.  Have peace in your heart.

 

Let nothing disturb you

Let nothing frighten you

All things pass away

God never changes

Patience obtains all things

He who has God lacking for nothing

God alone suffices

Theresa of Avila

Love,

Magdalene

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Magnify goodness in every moment.

Magnify goodness in every moment

It is a beautiful day.  Happy Sunday and may you find a few minutes today to give thanks to God, Master of our universe, our beautiful Mother Earth and the souls, past and present, who walk our journey with us. This morning I am pondering on the question: “Have we consciously allowed the dark energies of fear, hatred, jealousy, doubt.. to control our lives and the universe at large?”
There are more good people in this world than bad people but yet it seems that the energy of darkness has more power.  Are good people not magnifying their presence enough?  Can we be bold and do more things which send our strong and positive messages to our leaders, community, families, friends?  Are we so good that it is easier to sit back and watch the darkness take over?  Every single act of kindness, love, trust, hope, forgiveness is important to preserving our countries, communities and families.  Let us magnify the good so that it can overpower the dark energies which are destroying us.

– Pray with intensity

– Love deeply

– Laugh from deep within your core

– Find small and big things to celebrate

– Have deep conversations and speak truthfully about what you feel

– Reach out to someone new, someone different from you, someone in need, someone to share something with

– Live today as though it was your last day

– Feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, give clothing to those in need

– Mentor a child, a teenager, an adult

– Contribute  your talent towards something meaningful

– Speak words which are encouraging, inspiring, loving, forgiving

– Respect all forms of life

– Be bold with kind actions

Live your future NOW and magnify the goodness….

Love,

Magdalene

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First and last drink with my father – a life changing experience.

Pap

At 43, I had the first and last drink with my father, a man whom I loved dearly but we had a great divide between us – alcoholism. Upon the request of a friend on my way to Saint Lucia in 2012, I brought my dad a beautiful bottle of Crown Royal, a Canadian whisky. At first, I resisted getting that bottle, knowing full well that if I gave it to him, none of us would have peace in the house until it was finished. My friend said, “You must bring him something he likes.” Alcohol was the thing and against my better judgement I brought if for him.

One night, after visiting my mom from the hospital, my dad and I were sitting in the verandah and I had the sudden feeling to have a drink with him.  I got the bottle of Crown Royal and I poured a drink for both of us. It was the first time in my life where I was having a drink with my father, as a “comrade” and a “daughter.” We raised our glasses for a toast and drank that wonderful whisky. Unexpectedly, a quiet feeling of relief settled somewhere deep in me and there was a feeling of unity with my father – sharing with him that thing which he loved  and which was a huge part of his life. In that moment, my eyes saw my father in a light of compassion and love. I suddenly saw the little child in him who had grown up with a habit which had obviously given him some comfort. I saw that bottle taking all his fears away and making him feel like a strong man.  I saw the young man who had no one to counsel him and befriend him or to give him an alternative to drinking. I saw the father who provided for us and did his best, even with the demons of alcoholism. The resentment which I held against him for so many years, suddenly released it’s grip on me and a feeling of acceptance came over me. In the quietness of the evening, we drank, laughed and had a deep conversation about life.

Several nights later, after my mom crossed over, we spent hours looking for him, worried that something dreadful had happened to him. Someone referred us to a small rum shop  a distance away from where we lived. My sister and I found him there without shoes, completely drunk and “preaching” away to the folks in the rum shop. That evening, when he saw me, he said, “My child, how did you find me here? How did you know I was here?” He came towards me in his drunkenness and held me, half falling over. I held him, put on his shoes, paid his bill and led him to the car to take him home. A man in the rum shop shouted, “Mr. Cooman, you have a beautiful daughter.” He laughed, swaying away,  as I struggled to help him keep his balance.

The funny thing is that I too felt I had become a beautiful daughter by accepting him for who he was.

For the days that followed, even after his death, I realized that I had let go of all the pent-up anger I had towards him. It did not matter any more. That anger  had prevented me from seeing all the wonderful things my father brought to my life. All my life, I wanted to change him to be a good man who did not drink and felt disappointed that no matter how hard I tried, he did not change. The truth is that it was not my work to change him. My dad was a good dad who had a generous spirit, a genuine concern for others, a deep mind and a humble spirit which I have  found in few people.

Alcoholism puts a different spin on everything and I know from first hand experience the damage it can cause to a family. I remain grateful that God gave me the opportunity to heal this wound with my father before he crossed over. One of my greatest moments was having that first and last drink with him and accepting him for who he is, without having the need to change him anymore.

All of us have our imperfections. Maybe we come into each other’s lives to teach love, compassion and acceptance.

mom and pap with the girlsdad 1dad 2Dad graduation

 

 

Love,

Magdalene

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Do you feel that you have lost your spirt? How do you feed your spirt?

Feed your Spirt

It is not hard to lose the essence of who we are.  It is not hard to lose our souls.  Our lives sometimes feel so busy that we don’t have the time or energy to listen to our spirit, which is really longing for our attention to help us live our best lives.

We hear it in our voices when we say or think:

“I feel lost.”

“I feel tired.”

“I am not feeling fulfilled.”

“I need a challenge.”

“I feel bored.”

“I no longer know what I am doing with this job/partner/relationship.”

“I can’t stand my job any longer.”

When we disconnect from our spirit, everything else begins to crash around us.  When we tune in to those feelings – it is a signal for us to get back on track and honour that essence which sustains us.

For many years, I struggled trying to understand how to be quiet and meditate.   When I tried to sit quietly, my mind seemed to drift to my multitude of challenges. But I never gave up.  In my quest to quieten my mind, I have read lots of books on meditation.  One of them gave me an insight which changed everything completely.  It helped me to understand that my breath is the source of all life. It is the source which feeds my spirit.  As soon as this clicked in my mind, I found that I could lie down quietly and breathe deeply peacefully and let all other things float out of my mind.  I understand how important that my breath is – it is the breath of life.  As I lie down and just simply breathe in and out deeply for 15 minutes, I give my body and spirit, the gift of acknowledging the power of that breath and that life which I have been blessed with through grace. The  oxygen which feeds the cells of my body feel delighted that I take the time to do this.  In my moments of stress, my spirit reminds me to go back to my breath – and as I tune in to breathing and acknowledging that essence of who I am, all things become peaceful again.

TuneIn to your spirit today.  How do you feed it?

A walk?

Laughter?

Charity?

Breathing?

Singing?

Working out?

Slowing down?

A long bath?

Listening to music?

Lighting candles?

Doing the thing that feels right?

StepUp to feed your spirit daily.  It is so longing for you to come home to it – it is the source of our true essence.

Sign up for a TuneIn and StepUp Challenge.  We are looking for participants worldwide!

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Love,

Magdalene

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The Security Blanket of Money or Happiness? Can you have one without the other?

Last spring I was inspired by an unusual sight as I walked home. I saw a black woman with a white dress dancing in the rain with her red shoes in her hand. It was a very hot day and every drop of rain that touched my skin felt wonderful but I would not have the courage to dance in the rain! She radiated with light and her spirit was alive. The happy smile on her face brought an even happier smile to my face. I felt like joining her and dancing with her – how cool that would be! Being able to feel so alive in just that one moment – is a beautiful gift. Unaware to her, she had lifted my spirit tenfold and ignited a deeper feeling of happiness in my soul and at the same time she made me reflect on why most of us cannot simply find that sense of happiness and joy.

That absolute feeling of happiness is not something given to another. That feeling of happiness comes over us when we create a space in our hearts to embrace ourselves lovingly. It is a choice we make consciously regardless of the circumstances around us.

Imagine the magnificence of our lives if we decide to be happy regardless of all that happened around us.

Imagine how our lives can be stuck if we decide that we will only be happy when we win the lottery, pay all the bills, have the perfect body or job or partner and perhaps solve all the injustices which we fight for…

Someone said to me, “People think I am depressed or lonely or sad but all those emotions can change in the blink of an eye, if only I had the money to live the lifestyle I want to live. My problem is not having money…. it is the root of all the other problems”

My response to this was, “Can you be happy without having the money? Can you find things that can make you feel happy that don’t need money?”

He replied, “No… to have the experiences I enjoy, I need to have money. What can I do without money?”

How much of our happiness depends on having money?

Having and not having money is a constant in our lives. I used to worry about not having enough until I learnt that money is only energy and it comes and goes. It provides a superficial security which makes us feel at ease when we have enough of it. Without enough, our brains go crazy and we can easily sink into feelings of worthlessness and scarcity. This vulnerable state can actually lead into depression. Depression leads to low energy, low motivation, low self-esteem…. all of which does not help with the creativity required to draw more abundance to us.

What if our internal security lie in something way beyond having money and it requires us to listen to the still voice of our soul that identifies the things that make us feel happy. Do you know what makes you happy without a reason? Can you feel happiness, joy and gratitude from within? Walking in the rain is one of the things that has always made me feel happy since I was a child…going back to our childhood days can give a good insight into the things that sparked happiness in us and which we lose along the way.

To feel joy is like touching the spirit of life … and when that spirit is in you (the feeling of joy and love) is there anything that will not be provide to you? Have faith that all you need is already provided for you.

Affirm to yourself “I attract love, happiness, money, wealth and peace to my life. All is well in my world and my mind is in perfect peace. I feel blessed to experience this earthly journey and I welcome all the ups and downs as part of my earthly sojourn.”

Love,

Magdalene