Posted in Anticipation, Motivation, People who inspire others, Work

Looking for a job? A promotion? A new direction? Starting a business? Here is one quick way to prepare yourself…

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“What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.” — Wayne Dye

“Why do you dress up so much?” I asked Bernadette.  We were both young teachers many, many years ago and I could not understand why she was always dressed a couple of notches above everyone else.  After all we were simply teachers.

“I dress for the job I want.  Not the one I have.”  She responded curtly.  I never forgot that statement. I witnessed Bernadette thrive and move up the career ladder very quickly and I could not help but connect the dots between dressing for the job you have vs the one you want.  Within a couple of years, Bernadette was working in the highest office on the island as the Aide de Camp to the Governor General of St. Lucia.

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A few weeks ago, I sent a quick e-mail to her to see if she remembered that conversation all the way back then and surprisingly she did.

“Wow, yes I totally remember that and I ended up with a job  that I could never have imagined back then, at Government  house in the highest office in the land, thanks be to God, but proof that the theory actually worked. I still teach my students that how you present yourself, not where you are from, is  not only representative of how you value the skin you are in, but also the fact that you value others enough to take time to think about how you present yourself to them. With that, I don’t mean designer clothes or handbags, I mean clean and tidy.   Not showing your boxers or thong or bra. Yes,  I do have that conversation with university students believe it or not, being clean and well presented is important.  I am sure that I,  like you learnt that from my grandmother who was not rich but principled and had high morals and thought that life should be lived with a specific set of rules –  one being never walk around dirty or dishevelled, it says a lot about you. LOL.  Oh how I loved those days. I suppose  in a world where unfortunately appearance is everything,  how you look does matter but that is for a whole different Convo!”

Bernadette is now a Senior Lecturer at Leeds Metropolitan University and is doing fabulous work in the U.K.  Apart from lecturing, she is also a lead singer with a band.

I too have used that advice in my life.  I remember when I first came to Canada, I wanted a job that would get me out of professional clothes to do something different where I could be in jeans and  a more relaxed mood most of the time.  As soon as I formed that mental image, that is exactly what happened.  I got a job where I could do most of the work from home.  A year later, I had a vision for a different type of work which required more professional dressing.  As soon as I shifted the image in my mind and started acting the part,  the new job popped on the horizon.

As an employment coach, I give that piece of advice to hundreds of people.  When you are job searching or trying to find another job, mentally prepare yourself by dressing for the job you want.  Not the one you have.  Your mind is a powerful tool…if you are clear about an image…it will make that image become a part of your reality. Make that image your every day reality.  By dressing up for the role everyday, you are conditioning your mind.

“Our subconscious minds have no sense of humor, play no jokes and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.”Sidney Madwed

TuneIn to the way which you present yourself to the world.  Is it doing justice to your vision?  Are you presenting yourself in the way which is of highest integrity to yourself and those around you?  StepUp and take charge by creating a mental image of how you want to look.

Do you have as story to share?  We would love to hear from you.

https://tuneinandstepup.com/tell-your-soul-story/

Love,

Magdalene

Posted in Health and Wellness, Motivation, Relationships, Work

An easy way to lose professional credibility!

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I arrived half an hour late at my chiropractic appointment. I started to apologize and she said, “Oh, don’t worry Magdalene! You are here exactly at the time you are meant to be here. By being late, you could have just missed a big accident. Everything happens exactly as it should!”

Wow! I thought. What a different approach to business. I am not exactly a punctual person and being late for things have created huge losses and issues for me. Not being on time is regarded as disrespectful. Over the last year, I have consistently worked on improving this habit. Now when I get to places on time – no one is ready for me because I have conditioned them to thinking I will be late! I can tell you, it is hard to turn this around! I think of all those real life stories of people who missed opportunity because they are late but there are also those who have missed accidents and fatal situations because they were running late. Was it their fate? Sometimes it doesn’t always add up!

As the chiropractor and I chatted, she said something very profound to me. “Keep in mind that this moment, day, week or year, is a small part of your entire lifetime and an even smaller part of the several lifetimes you may have lived, if you believe in past lives.” She spoke my own general philosophy about life but which does not always work in a practical world where most people do not believe in past lives! People are logical and time management is a HUGE part of managing work and life balance. Now, mind you, I have never been late to my chiropractic appointment again – I look forward to each session and I can’t wait to get there. Why? Because her approach in working with me makes me feel better. I am intrinsically motivated.

So, this brings me back to the issue of being late. Why do we run late? Looking back at my own patterns, the main reason I run late is because I always have too many things going on at the same time. In my eagerness to please many people – I commit more than I should and get myself into trouble. I never thought much about it until someone got really upset after I left him waiting for me for two hours. He said “This is not about time. This is about YOU not honouring your word.” This put a whole new spin on it for me.

As Oprah Winfrey said “You can have it all. Just not all at once.”

This year, I started DOING LESS but also started being more mindful about my words and making time commitments. Guess what? Lateness has been significantly reduced. I am less stressed and more focused. I am learning to say NO to things which are not a priority. I am learning it is better to do a FEW THINGS BUT DO THEM WELL!!! and to mean what I say to someone. I am learning how to plan and manage my time better.

But there are other factors which play a part in running late. Think of these things:

– Am I late for things which I don’t want to go to? (I have often seen this with my kids when they do not want to go to a class)
– Am I late because I don’t like the people I am going to be with? (This creates a psychological trauma which will make you push back as much as possible)
– Am I late because no one holds me accountable which makes me feel that time does not matter? (This happened to me – no one held me accountable and it eventually developed in a bad habit! It takes a lot of effort to re-build that credibility)

If you are a punctual person – kudos to you!

If you are not – TuneIN to what is stopping you from being punctual and StepUP to respect other people’s time. It will also make you feel and act much, much more professional and help you gain credibility which can go a long way towards growing your career. When you run late occasionally, everyone will understand. But above all, find balance.

Oh – by the way, there is also a sign on my chiropractor’s desk that says “There will be a $45.00 charge for missed appointments!” Be on time today! 🙂

Love,
Magdalene