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Your sweat is the bond which you have with yourself to follow your heart.

Your sweat is the bond which you have with yourself to follow your heart, believe in yourself and to do the work which is burning in your soul. Don’t be afraid to sweat even though no one else may understand what drives you. The work which your soul is destined to fulfil was not assigned to you loosely but rather, you were trusted to carry it out. This journey is unique to you and only YOU will understand the magnitude of the work of your soul – only when you work from the soul level.

You may wonder then, if it is your soul work, why isn’t it being done faster or without tribulations or trials?  You may wonder why you are being faced with barriers, rejections and lack of support. The answer is simple – the soul needs to grow and experience many emotions across its many lifetimes. This lifetime may not be the one where you will reap the amazing rewards you feel that you should reap.  However, if the dimension which has to be done in this lifetime, is not done, there isn’t a chance that you will ever reap what you are capable of, even though you may live through several lifetimes.

Make this lifetime count.  Don’t worry so much about the outcomes.  Engage in the present.  Make daily choices to support your soul work. Stand proud and tall today for every single bead of sweat which has come from your own inner efforts and whisper a word of gratitude to the Universe, your  Creator, your soul group which holds you in reverence and believes in you.

“Gold medals aren’t really made of gold. They’re made of sweat, determination, and a hard-to-find alloy called guts.” Dan Gable

“Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.” Ann Landers

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Don’t be afraid to invest in yourself.

Last week I posted on my new program, ‘Coaching through Transitions’, which I implement mainly on the evenings or weekends. It has been such a pleasure working with two young women who are already making progress after a couple of weeks. Last night, when I walked in, the Director of the organization said: “I don’t know what you are doing with these two ladies but everyone on the staff wants to be part of the training. Tell me what I need to do to get training for everyone!”

This made me feel so happy – to know that I am making a difference in the lives of other women and helping them to develop new skills, gain new knowledge and insights, and to have the confidence to say: “Now I know what to do when I am facing this type of situation!” At the class, they bubbly shared how they are already putting their new tools and knowledge into practice.  The excitement in their voices is enough reward.

How do you get from one point to the next? How do you get a job promotion? How do you position yourself strategically for an opportunity? How do you maintain a positive attitude when things are falling apart?  How do you build confidence?  How do you develop a powerful network of people who can support you?  How do you work with others to create a happy environment?  How do you handle social media?

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It is amazing what a few hours with some blank paper, an open mind and a guided discussion can do for your soul.

Some of us are lucky and have been blessed with almost perfect lives and great opportunities.  However, the majority of people who I meet are struggling with one issue or another. Over the last two decades, my work with adults have proved several small but important things:

  • Sometimes, we simply do not know what to do to take the next step.
  • Sometimes, we don’t know what we don’t know.
  • Sometimes, we don’t realize that our attitude about life is keeping us back.
  • Sometimes, we don’t realize that we are simply in the wrong job.
  • Sometimes, we don’t realize that we are holding on to some pain which has drowned our joy and happiness for life.
  • Sometimes, we are afraid of our success.
  • Sometimes, we are afraid to fail and would prefer to remain motionless.
  • Sometimes, we don’t know how to ask for what we want.
  • Sometimes, we don’t realize that we need to breakthrough some very small habits in order to create major breakthroughs.
  • Sometime, we don’t know someone who can help us.
  • Sometimes, we believe that there is nothing more or nothing better than where we are stuck.

What if I told you that all of the barriers above can be turned into opportunities?

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  • Sometimes, we have to work at developing skills, knowledge and even learn new attitudes to help us break through our transitions.
  •  Sometimes, we have to learn courage by taking small risks to step out of our comfort zone.
  • Sometimes, we need to feel inspired by a vision which is more powerful than our fears.
  • Sometimes, we need someone to work with us and help us to navigate through the processes which we are afraid to tackle on our own.

If you feel that you are struggling more than you should in living a fulfilled life ,or feeling less satisfied with your job or not getting through the goals which you set for yourself, you could be in need of someone to coach you. Sometimes, breaking through may require a change in perspective, some new tools to give help you get organized, some new content to help you have a greater understanding of the subject matter. That is what coaching is all about.

Today, life is moving faster than ever. This calls for major shifts in managing both our work and personal life as well as managing our thought patterns.

I am grateful for the amazing people in my life. I am grateful for the opportunities of living my passion and knowing THAT feeling of living purposefully and of sharing my gifts with others.

I am still work in progress… such a lot of learning to do and the world is such a beautiful training school.

Love,

Magdalene

Mags

 

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One New Year’s Resolution which I banned…

Magdalene 1st blogFor many years, until 2012,  one of my favourite resolutions was to lose weight.  I thought I would look so much sexier and feel so much better about myself, if only I was ten pounds less.  I never succeeded to maintain that goal throughout the year.  I have started more yoga, exercise and diet routines than I would care to mention here.   I have paid for gym memberships and not worked out at all in the gym.  I have felt like a total failure for not being faithful to my own resolutions.

In 2012,  I replaced weight loss with, “Exercise regularly and eat healthy meals”. Since then, I don’t bother weigh myself anymore – in fact I don’t even have a scale! I know when I have put on some extra pounds and I know exactly what to do to take it off. I no longer burry myself in shame for not being leaner, sexier, more glamorous or more beautiful.  I am all those things every single day and I truly believe that I am.   I no longer wish for any magic pill to take away the pounds. I know that it takes discipline to keep yourself fit and I know that I need to put in effort to get results.

In 2013 I wrote  a blog called – Lose 10 lbs. by writing. Truly, I had lost 10 lbs. which I attributed towards writing.

“I developed a habit to write each morning for about an hour and by the time I was done, I felt more grounded.  I felt that I had touched a part of my soul that was longing to be nurtured. I paid more attention to what I ate, drank more water and added more fiber to my diet. That same year, I started blogging.What I have learnt from this experience is that my soul needs creative expression. Actually, consistency matters when we are trying to change something in our lives.”

Here is how my subconscious mind works (and maybe yours too!). When we say, “I want to lose weight”, our subconscious minds understands that there is something wrong with us. It understands that we are lacking something to feel complete. Chances are that you will keep on feeling frustrated with not getting to your  weight loss goal and go right back to poor eating habits or not exercising regularly.   Do you seriously value your beautiful body beyond the looking good part?

When I say, “I exercise regularly and eat healthily’, my subconscious gets exactly that. I don’t need to lose weight. What I need is a healthy body. I can have a healthy body if I eat healthy foods and exercise regularly. If I don’t have access to the gym, I go for a walk. If it is too cold outside, I walk in an indoor shopping mall. I can even do yoga at home!  The pressure of weight loss is no longer a burden on my emotional body.

My body feels valued and respected when I take good care of it. I can feel that all the cells are happy and rejuvenated.

How can creative expression help you to overcome obstacles and move closer to your life goals?  Sometimes, the breakthrough happens when we deal feed our souls with the right nourishment. Is it dance? Music? Reading? Writing? Painting? Sculpting?

Live your future NOW… touch your soul.

Love,

Magdalene

 

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16 Quotes by George Eliot, to Move YOU forward in 2016!

 

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Happy 2016!  May this year bring you great health, peace, prosperity and much happiness.

About a year ago, George Eliot showed up as one of my spiritual mentors in 10`4.  (There is an article about how this all happened in the 2nd edition of Mags Magazine which will be released soon.)  However, since she has been whispering to me all afternoon to publish those 16 quotes… here they are.  Enjoy reading and please let me know of your plans for 2016!

About George Eliot:

Mary Ann Evans (22 November 1819 – 22 December 1880; alternatively “Mary Anne” or “Marian”), known by her pen name George Eliot, was an English novelist, journalist, translator and one of the leading writers of the Victorian era. She is the author of seven novels, including Adam Bede (1859), The Mill on the Floss (1860), Silas Marner (1861), Middlemarch (1871–72), and Daniel Deronda (1876), most of them set in provincial England and known for their realism and psychological insight.

She used a male pen name, she said, to ensure her works would be taken seriously. Female authors were published under their own names during Eliot’s life, but she wanted to escape the stereotype of women only writing lighthearted romances. (Wikepedia)

Quotes:

  1. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

2.      “What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?”
3.      “Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact.”
4.      “A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
5.      “It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses, we must plant more roses.”

6.      “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”

7.      “It is always fatal to have music or poetry interrupted.”

8.      “It seems to me we can never give up longing and wishing while we are still alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger for them.”
9.      “And, of course men know best about everything, except what women know better.”
10.  “Life seems to go on without effort when I am filled with music.”
11.  “Keep true. Never be ashamed of doing right. Decide what you think is right and stick to it.”
12.   “Adventure is not outside man; it is within.”
13.  “Hold up your head! You were not made for failure, you were made for victory. Go forward with a joyful confidence.”
14.  “Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.”
15.  “Don’t judge a book by its cover”
16.  “Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.”

Love,

Magdalene

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Live your Dreams and Silence your Fears

Live your DREAMS

Pull your dreams from the boxes, baskets and drawers.
Lift them from the endless journals and thoughts that make you feel dizzy when you think of the possibilities.
Let go of the people who bury you and your dreams alive.
Stand tall and give yourself permission to capture your dreams.
Breathe.  Breathe some more.  YES! You can do it.
Leap into action.
Get ahead of the game.
Let us make 2016 the year of living our dreams and silencing our fears.
Your dreams are so worth fighting for.
Come and be inspired on December 18th for Inspiration 2016!
Love,
Magdalene
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Are you losing your voice and your soul by being too diplomatic?

Cute girl shouting into megaphone with hand drawn lines and arro“One thing I’ve learned in life is that I can speak for myself, that I can fight my own battles. I don’t like anyone telling me how I’m supposed to feel or think or what I’m supposed to say.”Hope Solo

I bit my tongue several times as my mind whirled trying to find words to articulate my truth and say exactly what I felt.  It was painful as I watched the lies unfold and people diplomatically fluffed their way out of an uncomfortable  situation using their art of diplomacy and power. The empty words of “opportunity” “collaboration”  suddenly seem to lose their true meaning and became a vehicle for deceit, denying the truth, protecting territory, protecting their sphere of control and power.

I left feeling choked, unheard and angry. And these are a few of the emotions which drain us, make us sick, build protective walls around us.  These unheard feelings from the heart and soul leads to war, distrust and ongoing conflict. Anger, very often is portrayed as an unhealthy emotion but I have learnt that when anger surfaces in our lives, we must give it a voice because something led to it.

I have always believed that being diplomatic is essential to get things done, avoid conflict, settle disputes and generally keep you on good terms with every one.  It is a mindset for me to get along with every one! Although I still believe this, recent experiences makes me wonder whether diplomacy also makes us loose our voices, become “YES” people and tolerate what our souls know is not healthy for us or the rest of the world.

Most of our jobs and our lives generally require us to be diplomatic.  What do you do when something is obviously wrong but you have to be the diplomatic person to save the deal, protect the company, protect the image of your colleague, friend, family boss or partner?

One of the greatest energy suckers or energy vampires in not being able to speak your truth for fear of the consequences – losing an opportunity, losing friendships, losing deals, losing promotions, losing long-term gains.  We cover our authenticity with “sweet talk”, play on words, lack of clarity, over promise or under promise… any thing to avoid conflict and direct openness.

But do you know what happens at the end of all this diplomacy from a personal perspective?  We lose ourselves.  We betray our souls. We sell ourselves way too short.  We live half fulfilled lives and in some cases we lose our dreams completely.  Our eyes lose their shine and our energy simply cannot rise to meet the higher levels for self actualization and spiritual depth.

What would it feel like if you simply told the truth? What if you did not have to be diplomatic for one day?  What would you do differently?  Would you tell a few people to F…. off?  Would it release some pressure from your heart and soul? Do you have a responsibility to be authentic to yourself?

For each lie we tell our soul, keeps us further and further away from the life we are meant to live.

Love,

Magdalene
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Are you stunting your professional and personal goals because you are afraid to ask?

Ask

I got a surprise this morning when I opened my e-mail and saw an e-mail from one of my favourite best-selling authors, who has is the author of several books and hosts a radio show as well.   I wrote to her in December asking for a review of my magazine but I assumed that she would be too busy to even respond to me.  However, I remained open.  Now that we are communicating, I am  super excited because she is now reading it.

Asking has been a learning journey for me.  Each time I open my mouth to ask for something I need, I feel that my courage muscles grow a bit more.   It was not always like that – I have spent sleepless nights debating whether I should ask or not. Now, I have simplified it to knowing I will receive the following  possible answers (not always in those direct words) and I have made peace with all of them:

Yes

No

Maybe

Not now

Let us consider this later.

Last Summer, one of my most beautiful asking moments, happened with a business man who sponsored one of our events. I was very nervous calling him (because I am afraid of rejection).  However, within five minutes after I put in my ask, he asked, “how much?”  I told him the price and he said, “Come around, I will have a cheque ready for you.”  It all happened within five minutes! I almost lost out on that opportunity because of my fear of rejection!

I know for a fact though, that if we don’t ask, we will miss out on opportunities. I have also grown to accept rejection as part of the process and learnt not to judge the response or responder.  I remain open and comfort myself with the fact that I did my part – I asked for what I needed. I cannot control the response.

Why don’t we ask for what we need?

One of life’s fundamental truths states, ‘Ask and you shall receive.’ As kids we get used to asking for things, but somehow we lose this ability in adulthood. We come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons to avoid any possibility of criticism or rejection. Jack Canfield

Are you stunting your professional, personal

and entrepreneurial growth

by not asking?

What do you need?  Have you identified who can give it to you?  Maybe they can’t do it directly, but they could refer you to someone who can give you what you need.

It is not our role to assume the response of the other person. Don’t assume things like they are too busy, it is too trivial, you’re  bothering them, they don’t understand etc.

What would you gain if they simply said YES to your ask.  Let that possibility be your motivator for asking.

Asking is the beginning of receiving.  Make sure you don’t go to the ocean with a teaspoon. 

At least take a bucket so the kids won’t laugh at you! Jim Rohn

Love,

Magdalene