“The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.” William James
“I would have felt so much better if he had only acknowledged my contribution.” she said. She shrugged her shoulders with a slight shake of her head. “I don’t understand why he would treat me like that. Why wouldn’t he simply say ‘thank you?’”
This was a cry for acknowledgement. A few years later, following this conversation, I found out that she had found another job. This incident had caused a shift in loyalty and the drive to find an employer who would be appreciative of her efforts.
Ingratitude is a real thing. Sometime,s it is done deliberately to break down another person’s self-esteem. People who use this as a strategy to kill a person’s worth, should be mindful of cost of ingratitude at work, at home or with people in general. It leaves emotional scars which can take a long time to heal.
Ingratitude kills talent and creates unharmonious relationships. An uneasy feeling haunts the person who should be thanked. When we don’t show gratitude to our co-workers or our loved ones, here is what happens in five words:
“THEY BEGIN TO CHECK OUT.”
They detach from us emotionally. When this happens, it results in:
- lack of motivation and the desire to perform
- lack of initiative
- lack of enthusiasm
- lack of loyalty
- lack of joy
When these ‘lacks’ happen regularly, the environment begins to lack ‘soul’. Easy tasks become hard. The soul begins to search for a place of comfort to restore balance. The result: we can lose great husbands, wives, partners, children, workers, bosses and even friends.
Just imagine that the quick fix to problems which can cause thousands of dollars in irreparable damage, lies in making the time to SAY simple words like:
“I appreciate your efforts.”
“I am grateful for what you did today.”
“What would I do without you?”
Two quotes to think about:
“Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” Gertrude Stein
“Keep your eyes open and try to catch people in your company doing something right, then praise them for it.” Tom Hopkins
Thank you for making the time to read this blog. I appreciate it.