“As an Internationally Trained Professional, I faced (for two years) the barriers/challenges that most immigrants face such as lack of Canadian experience, lack of credential assessment, lack of labour market information and the worst – lack of a job. The overwhelming weight of these “lacks” on my back crippled my momentum and obscured my vocational vision. Magdalene’s sterling ability to coach, inspire and empower coupled with her expertise in the field of career development, self-assessment and transitional management led me to develop a compelling value proposition, networking strategy and job search approach which gave me access to employment commensurate with my skills and expertise within one month” E. Lawel Natufe
This testimonial came up this morning while I was looking for something else through my files. About two years ago, Lawel expressed his gratitude to me at his farewell party at work. He said, “What Magdalene did for me was to affirm me as a person who had what it takes to re-build my career.” He was a young man whom I met about six years ago, who had been unemployed for about two years, completely frustrated and had lost confidence in himself. Looking back at my experience working with him one of my strategies as an employment counselor back then was to re-build his self-confidence. I saw huge potential in him and believed in his abilities to get back on his feet. I can truly say that words of affirmation were instrumental in helping him to overcome the obstacles while we also applied some strategies such as mentorship and re-branding his resume and his approach to the job market. Today, he is a well established professional and an entrepreneur who is contributing his professional skills to the Canadian economy and internationally. Not only that, he is living his vocation as a minister and contributing to positive changes in the lives of others.
What is it about words of affirmation that inspires and grounds us?
When we speak kindly to others and affirm their superior qualities we give them confidence to face life, regardless of what circumstances they encounter. More importantly, I have discovered that if words of affirmation are backed up by pure and good intention for the other person, the two become powerful forces to help move a person forward very quickly. I can write an inexhaustible list of people who have affirmed me and whom I have affirmed and I can see the difference we have made in each others lives. One such example is an old man whom I met when I was about 10 years old, who said to me, “You speak English so well, you will go far in your life.” I often think of him when I blog.
You can never forget a person who express sincerity and confidence in you, especially in your darkest moments.
You can also never forget a person who speaks words to diminish your character or belittle you.
A friend has repeatedly told me, “We must be careful about how we speak to each other. It even determines the level of intimacy which is shared between a couple. A man or woman who feels ‘small and insignificant’ to his/her partner, cannot perform at an optimal level in the relationship. It leaves a gap between the couple which can easily be filled by someone else or some other activity.”
A young woman told me that she was always called “ugly” by her parents and grew up to believe that she is an ugly person even when she has grown up to be a strikingly beautiful woman.
How do you affirm those around you?
Here are a few statements you can use to affirm yourself and others. As you say them, make them even more powerful by adding good intentions and sincerity as well as believing in each statement completely.
To affirm yourself:
- I love myself.
- I trust myself.
- I believe in my ability to excel.
- I am beautiful.
- I can accomplish this task.
- I have the courage to make …. decisions
- I am intelligent and creative. I can find solutions to my challenges.
To affirm others:
- You are wonderful.
- I like it when you do…..
- You make me feel very special when you….
- You add so much joy and peace to my life…
- You are an incredible person.
- Thank you for always being there for me.
- I love you unconditionally.
- You did a difficult job well.
- I appreciate your sincerity.
- Thank you for looking after me.
- Thinking of you makes me smile.
- You are doing a great job. Don’t give up!
- Thank you for listening.
- You look great!
- I appreciate it when you do…..
- I admire your courage to face your challenges…
TuneIn today to the absolutely phenomenal person you are! StepUp and affirm yourself. Believe in your limitless potential to add goodness and great value to your life. StepUp even more to affirm those in your life – let them know how much you care and trust in their ability to rise!